went for lynn's Milo party today. and yup, Milo is by far the cutest and most hyperactive dog ive seen! we ate beehoon, bubble tea, cuttlefish, chips, pudding, fondue, cheesecake..omg so much for worshipping Joanne Peh. anyway truly had a great time, thanks lynn! im glad Milo had fun scratching and nibbling and sniffing and licking me all over lol. yup and now im seriously considering buying a dog in future, subject to approval from my other half of course wahaha.
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anyway there's an interesting issue ive been pondering about, and i would really like to blog about. but i believe its a sensitive issue so its something id rather talk about it here than in reality. and i really, really hope to hear everyone's comments cos i know its something we all face in everyday life, just a matter of how we choose to face it. yep, im talking about money.
actually the triggering event to my thoughts was yesterday's lunch after much hoo-haa about the bill, i started thinking about it on the way home. what happened was we sort of decided to split up the bill amongst us instead of calculating how much we have eaten exactly. so here comes the dilemma - when do we split the bill, and when do we calculate what we've eaten? i believe this is something we all face everyday but not all of us handle it the same way.
okie so i refer to meals as normal meals, and not treats.
1. at meals when its almost impossible to account for how much you've eaten (e.g. like zi char), i feel the best way to settle the bill is to split it amongst the number of people. so far i haven't seen it done any other way, but pls let me know if you do haha.
2. as for meals which have fixed prices stated explicitly in the menu, there's of cos no issue.
3. and as for meals which are a mixture of both (like yesterday when some dishes are meant for sharing), as far as possible, i feel we should try to pay for what we've eaten. im not talking about accounting for how many grams of food did you eat from a particular dish (thats ridiculous!), but maybe more of the agreement of whether you are going to eat, and maybe how much you are going to eat? it's not totally about getting your money's worth, but rather i think its more the issue of responsibility.
haha its interesting how responsibility comes into play. cos i believe that before we choose dishes, its our responsibility to seek everyone's consensus as to whether they are agreeable to sharing, and also take note of the prices (just like in zi char instances). as for the spender, he/she has a responsibility to choose to eat what is within his/her budget. it doesn't matter if we're generous spenders or not, i believe we all have certain budgets for our meals (pls correct me if im wrong). and so for those who are on low budget, they will definitely choose and eat what is within their budgeted range only. so............, if the bill is split equally between everyone, it won't be fair for those who chose their meal carefully to keep it within budget, and they eat only what they chose, but yet end up paying more in the end. and i think to make up for it, it also means they have less money to spend on something else.
true, i agree that convenience is a good reason to split up the bill equally. as i said, its quite impossible to remember how many pieces of say, chicken slices? that you ate from the plate (that would mean you are too bored and lacking something in your dull life haha). however, as much as possible, im more towards paying for what you eat. of cos it does not have to be exact, but at least the 'meaning' is there, know what i mean?
haha so for example, since the bill details were stated in black and white, i felt what we did yesterday was probably more towards laziness rather than convenience sake. for small amount discrepancies such as $1 or $2 each person i think its ok - but say if you realize you are paying about $5 (n above) more than you should, then i think thats quite a lot of discrepancy for just a normal meal. so in situations like this, i feel what we should have done is instead each calculate how much we've eaten (around and about, no need exact) then voice it out, and then split up again.
haha its not easy to talk about money issues (i guess thats why BFG always choose to ignore instead of facing it). i believe many feel that with very close friends, money shouldn't be a topic or issue, and everyone should pay generously. but i disagree- i think we need to remember that under normal circumstances, you are really not obliged to pay more, and you are also not privileged to pay less. i think for very close friends, this is the way they keep close and stay open with each other (as ive witnessed from the skinz' juying gang! lol).
yup, well i feel that this whole issue is really more about responsibility and at this age. as i said earlier, it's not totally about getting your money's worth, but rather i think its more the issue of responsibility. its quite hard to balance generosity and responsibility, but we should be responsible for the way we spend. especially at this age, when i can safely say that not all the money we have belongs to us, not until we are totally off our FA-MA (father-mother) scholarship.
i once again stress that this IS a sensitive issue, and definitely not my channel for criticism! not yours too lol. but i would really like to hear other ppl's comments so do feel free to tag me. 所谓谈钱伤感情..so let's do this with an open mind and pls tag me with what you truly think=]
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