green-eyed monster~

green-eyed monster~

"Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat." (Parrot, 2001, p.313)

is jealousy a girl's thing, a unisex thing, or is it just plain abnormal? i don't know but i admit ive been jealous many times, and everytime i blame myself for being abnormal. it makes me feel lousy, unwanted, and totally hate myself for who i am. and to hate oneself, i must say, is probably the worst feeling anyone could ever have (besides regret).

people say it's normal to get jealous over certain things, but i have a hard time convincing myself. i thought to love someone is to always understand and trust him or her fully. but why then is there still a feeling of jealousy? cos if you trust him or her fully, there shouldnt be jealousy at all, not even for sometimes, right? so does it mean that you actually dont really love him or her?

honestly, im afraid. cos i dont want to be abnormal! so if you've been jealous before, jealous now and then, or jealous often, whatever..please tell me. i don't want to feel alone. i dont want to be a green-eyed monster. =(

anyway found this jealousy test online. though i dont know if it's accurate, but you can just take it for fun. found one for guys and one for girls. the men's test is much shorter (HMPH.)

Women: http://psychologytoday.psychtests.com/tests/jealousy_wom_r_access.html
Men: http://discoveryhealth.queendom.com/questions/jealousy_men_abridged_1.html


My Jealousy test results:

Your score = 29
Jealousy Score 29

What does your score mean?

Most people who are involved in an important relationship carry a certain amount of fear and feel threatened by the possibility of being displaced and losing a partner to someone else. After all, these things happen, and when they do, it is usually very painful. Very few people display a blatant lack of jealousy. That is certainly not your case. You appear to be a person in whom jealousy can be evoked quite easily but who does not live in a permanent state of fear of losing the loved one.